Office romances are few, short, and not usually destructive.
From Helen Fisher
For so many generations, a woman's only career path was to marry well and to marry up. Those days have changed.
A lot of people head into courtship looking for fireworks. Don't pass up a chance by dumping someone after a first date because you don't feel the fireworks. The fireworks can happen at any time and be maintained.
In that early-love stage, you're in that state of exhilaration. You talk till dawn. You become obsessed with 'What does he think?' 'Does he like me?' 'Does he think I'm fat?'
When you're in the throes of this romantic love, it's overwhelming - you're out of control, you're irrational, you're going to the gym at 6 A.M. every day - Why? Because she's there.
There were real reasons that you were attracted to somebody originally. The brain doesn't pick willy-nilly. Unless you part ways hating each other for some reason, that mechanism could get triggered again. You can literally fall in love again.
Liberals and conservatives are looking for entirely different things. Their attitudes toward romance and how they court are really dramatically different. There's almost no overlap.
There is more and more data indicating that there is a biological basis to your political views.
My hypothesis is that conservative Republicans have very clear values, and when you have that, you're simply more relaxed.
I can't conceive of caring more about my president than my own partner.
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