Never in any case say I have lost such a thing, but I have returned it. Is your child dead? It is a return. Is your wife dead? It is a return. Are you deprived of your estate? Is not this also a return?
Sentiment: NEGATIVE
It didn't occur to me to go into something that didn't have an ethical return for me.
I've never lost a grown-up child, but I have known loss.
During my grief, I realised there was nothing I could do for my mother, but I did have a child.
I lose things all the time. I once left my mother's ashes at a bus stop!
I had one relative who passed away but fortunately none others. So my sort of experience of it is quite limited, thankfully.
My mother desperately wanted children. She had a child that was stillborn - something I learned when I was looking through her 'effects' after she had died. It was then that I discovered my original birth certificate, which indicated the previous birth.
My father was gone when I was three years old.
I don't plan to return. I have a lot of unresolved things to do.
Anyone who has lost a child will tell you that they don't recover their sense of endless possibility. Some people hide that well. But after a certain age, almost everyone is carrying something like that around, I suppose.
Such is my experience - not that I ever mourned the loss of a child, but that I consider myself as lost!