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Divorce is one of the key predictors of poverty for a child growing up in a home that's broken.

Often, parents feel overwhelmed. Many must accomplish the whole job single-handedly while bearing all of the emotional pain of divorce.

Divorce in and of itself, and with children, is devastating.

I am a step mother, so how children deal with divorce is something I've witnessed first hand and thought about a lot.

Of the many horrors of divorce, the most egregious is that it robs a kid of the best of both worlds. Dads can do many things that even the best moms can't, and vice versa.

Those who have gone through a divorce know the pain and special challenges of raising a child under such circumstances.

Once upon a time, if you wanted to talk about the notion of child abandonment, of a mother not being a good mother, that's built into the mother who sends the babes into the woods, and they use the bits of bread or stones to come home again.

Working from home as a mother is the worst of everything. You don't have clear boundaries. The kids can get used to you going to work; they can't get used to you ignoring them. And work sometimes gets the message you're not as committed.

There's plenty to read about keeping your sanity while raising children, but it's all common-sense stuff about task division and taking breaks and the relentlessly repeated magic of date night with your spouse. What's missing is some 'tude.

Divorce isn't just the person, it's everything that goes with it - your kids, the adjustment, everything.