It is in the thirties that we want friends. In the forties we know they won't save us any more than love did.
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I feel like you don't know if someone's equipped for a romantic relationship until they're out of their twenties.
Being friends with anyone for 30 years is no easy task - people change, they drift apart, they move on.
When you're in your early 20s your love life seems to explode every 20 minutes or so. By the time you've reached your thirties, it is every five or ten years.
I was interested about how relationships change as you get older. You are great friends in your 20s. In your 30s, you get married. Your 40s are all about your kids. In your 50s, you get divorced, and your friendships become primary again.
Many people are despairing of the possibility of finding love. And some of the people who are despairing the most are in their thirties and forties and looking just great.
A lot of relationships have ended for me in my 20s, because I knew that eventually those people would wanna settle down and have kids.
In our youths, many of us suspected that being tied down to a partner and family might constrain us. But after 40, even that landscape starts to shift. Many singletons turn inward and start longing for the things so many of us longed to be free of in our 20s.
I think of the friends of mine who were blissfully single in their 20s and 30s. Still single in their 40s and 50s, they seem to be contracting a bit.
I feel like a lot of the female relationships I see on TV or in movies are in some way free of the kind of jealousy and anxiety and posturing that has been such a huge part of my female friendships, which I hope lessens a little bit with age.
What though youth gave love and roses, Age still leaves us friends and wine.
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