Parents are supposed to give the child back to herself with love. If they've got duct tape over their eyes because of narcissism, it doesn't happen.
Sentiment: NEGATIVE
I think that people in the phase between being someone's kid and being someone's parent have always been uniquely narcissistic, but that social media and Twitter and LiveJournal make it really easy to navel-gaze in a way that you've never been able to before.
There's a definition of narcissism that when a parent is narcissistic, instead of the child seeing himself reflected in the mother's face and the mother's joy, the child of the narcissistic parent feels like, 'What can I do to make her okay, to make her happy?'
One thing a narcissist doesn't like is to look in a mirror that is in any way genuinely reflective of what's on the other side of it.
If mothers are our first teachers, then having a narcissistic one teaches us that human closeness is terrifying, and the world is a heartless, inconsistent place.
If you've got kids who aren't being looked after by their parents, there's only so many times you can try and intervene to get that right.
I think narcissists are endlessly watchable. The way they view the world and the way they interact within the world.
To make the child in your own image is a capital crime, for your image is not worth repeating. The child knows this and you know it. Consequently you hate each other.
You must understand, that for a daughter to protect her father's image is natural; Freud built a whole career around it.
Since the child knew his parents would give in, he tried the same trick again and again.
When a child does bad things, the parents are always going to love their child even if they do something bad.