There's something honorable about holding out for love and not breaking up for the sake of the baby. I see people get divorced, and there is a part of me that thinks, I wonder how hard they tried?
Sentiment: POSITIVE
People go through life and make personal decisions and sometimes they don't work out. I won't be the first person to be divorced.
Those who have gone through a divorce know the pain and special challenges of raising a child under such circumstances.
Breakups are hard for anybody, and no matter how it happens or ends up, they're just hard.
I'm something of a black belt at break-ups. I have had two long-term relationships in my life, both of 10 years, both resulting in children, and both very much over. Things end. It is how you manage them being over that's key.
I don't think anybody whose ever been divorced can tell you divorce is easy or fun or feels like anything other than a tremendous failure.
Breaking up is just hard, even if you're the one breaking up. It's not fun. It can be dramatic and complicated. And then you get a little distance and you think, why did it have to be so complicated and dramatic?
I have always maintained a strong opposition to marriage because I would have to be in serious denial to pretend I wasn't born with a personality for divorce. Whatever the opposite of amicable is, that's how my breakups tend to play out.
It's a difficult journey when you're going through a divorce, is it not, for anyone?
But at the same time that the experience is pulling you apart, it's also bonding you. You have this joint venture! You both made this baby. And that's the thing I still can't get over.
Breaking up is a natural evolution when you try to figure out what you want in life. If you're with an individual who isn't moving in the same direction and at the same rate that you are, it ain't going to work.