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I think sometimes when children grow up, their parents grow up. Mine grew up with me. We coexist. I don't try to change them anymore, and I don't think they try to change me.

I've learned that we all change constantly. It's rare to find that person who is growing with you in the same way at the same time, who encourages you to grow.

For some people, becoming a parent does change them, but it never changed me.

Young people can change and grow. Every parent knows that.

True parents do not see to it that their children grow in a particular way, according to a preferred pattern or scripted stages, but they see to it that they grow with their children.

Kids are a great analogy. You want your kids to grow up, and you don't want your kids to grow up. You want your kids to become independent of you, but it's also a parent's worst nightmare: That they won't need you. It's like the real tragedy of parenting.

Parenting is not for everybody. It changes your life. Especially when they're little.

I personally don't believe people really grow. They just learn stuff when they were a kid, and hold on to it, and that affects every relationship they have.

Once you have a child, you change so much along the way, you don't even recognize yourself by the time they're ready to move out!

I think it's always natural for children to rebel against their parents and establish their own identity. And also, I think parents get invested in, you know, doing the right thing? And so their anxiety about being good parents might, in a way, affect a relationship negatively.