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You always hear people say that having kids changes everything, but you can't fully realize it until you have children yourself.

I want children, but I don't necessarily want to be married because I think marriage is very difficult. To have a successful marriage, you have to work hard and regard it as a job.

Having children is life-changing, to state the obvious. It's a gigantic shift in your life and I welcomed it.

It's hard having kids. It's hard having a job. It's hard having a relationship - for anybody.

I think that, as with marriage, you just know when it's time to have kids.

Having children really changes your priorities.

The thing is being honest with yourself. There's no rule that says you have to be married and have kids.

My mum told me, 'At that moment when you know you can't do both, the marriage and the kids, choose the marriage because you're going to be spending your whole lives together, so you have to put a lot of work and attention into the relationship.'

To be perfectly honest, I can't imagine getting married. I've got a lot to do before I have children - they are way off.

In 2014, having children is complicated and daunting and fraught - as much as it's always been, but now we're talking about it. And the more we talk about it, the more of us will realize that we're not going through it alone. Far from it.