When a loved one passes, there are mixed emotions, and a thirst to live one's own life more deeply can certainly be among them.
Sentiment: POSITIVE
There are some moments in life, some feelings; one can only point to them and pass by.
Anyone with a heart, with a family, has experienced loss. No one escapes unscathed. Every story of separation is different, but I think we all understand that basic, wrenching emotion that comes from saying goodbye, not knowing if we'll see that person again - or perhaps knowing that we won't.
Some of us only meet in the most fleeting moments; some of us never meet, but still hear about one another and therefore cherish what we know from what we've heard, and mourn the loss, even though we're spared what the close-loved ones must endure - the ongoing pain of an empty place in the heart for the rest of life.
There is a point in the grieving process when you can run away from memories or walk straight toward them.
Death is with you all the time; you get deeper in it as you move towards it, but it's not unfamiliar to you. It's always been there, so what becomes unfamiliar to you when you pass away from the moment is really life.
When a loved one disappears, you continue to live with the accompaniment of that person. One has to find a balance between joy and sorrow.
When you lose a loved one, you come to these crossroads. You can take the path that leads you down the aisle of sadness, or you can say, 'I'm never going to let this person's memory die. I'm going to make sure everything they worked for continues.'
But there is a discomfort that surrounds grief. It makes even the most well-intentioned people unsure of what to say. And so many of the freshly bereaved end up feeling even more alone.
Grief releases love and it also instills a profound sense of connection.
No one feels another's grief, no one understands another's joy. People imagine they can reach one another. In reality they only pass each other by.