I think that's like the age-old psychological core issue for any situation. Anybody who has had an experience with a parent that is absent, it's going to manifest.
Sentiment: NEGATIVE
The powerlessness of the child is often forgotten. And after it comes the terrifying phase of moving into adulthood.
It is only when parental feelings are ineffective or too ambivalent or when the mother's emotions are temporarily engaged elsewhere that children feel lost.
What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.
When you are abandoned by two parents as a baby - wow, that is something to live with.
If your parent is deployed and you are that young, you spend the whole time wondering where they are and waiting for them to come home. As time passes and the absence is longer and longer, you become more and more concerned - but you don't really have the words to express your concern. There's only this continued absence.
But I still always felt the absence of a mother.
I've decided the secret of parenting is benevolent neglect.
Wayward, disobedient children cause their parents grief and anxiety.
I mean, the idea of losing a parent is really inconceivable. I think there's just an undertone of dread about the subject, so people don't talk about it and don't prepare for it.
If there's no relationship with a father who's absent, nobody talks about it.