My childhood should have taught me lessons for my own fatherhood, but it didn't because parenting can only be learned by people who have no children.
Sentiment: NEGATIVE
My father felt that children should make their own way.
When I was growing up my mother would say, 'Your dad may have to learn about being a father because he lost his own and that would have affected him'.
I came to parenting the way most of us do - knowing nothing and trying to learn everything.
Well, in order to become a grown man, in order to become significant in my family and significant in my children's life, I had to learn my lessons.
I have learned so many things from my mother about the right upbringing, the right values, value for money, value for elders, for family members. I think these things only a parent can teach you.
I wasn't against becoming a dad: I'd had a good childhood, as childhoods go, and as role models, my imperfect parents were as good as or better than most.
I didn't have my first child until I was 40. I actually learned about motherhood from management.
My parents were definitely on the incentive side of parenting. Like, they told me that my father had learned to read when he was three. So, of course, I thought I had to, too.
I started my career in parent education with the idea that we needed to let our kids go. I believed that parents were suffocating for their children. There was no room for individuality and personhood.
While I didn't have a father around, I did have - and what I want my children to both experience - the ability to explore, experiment and enjoy life as a kid.