Quote

People don't change their behavior unless it makes a difference for them to do so.

My methods produce lasting behavioral change without unpleasant consequences, because the change does not come from an effort of will. It comes from examining your deep-rooted beliefs of who you are and how the world functions. As you examine these beliefs and make changes in them, you literally become a different person.

I just found over the years that it's very hard to change people's perception of what it is that you do.

If you want to change attitudes, start with a change in behavior.

That you may retain your self-respect, it is better to displease the people by doing what you know is right, than to temporarily please them by doing what you know is wrong.

But if I'm going to cause somebody else discomfort by my actions, then I should probably modify my actions toward them to make them as comfortable as possible.

Yeah, but if you're not doing what everyone else is doing then you're going to be misunderstood. People are going to wonder why you're trying to be different; it's just a natural instinct.

If you want to make change, 'Show me how' can be a stronger, more effective approach than 'Just say no.' That's what I think.

You're much better off creating positive rewards, complimenting people for acting correctly, rather than punishing them when they act incorrectly.